Emibies didn't survive thaw…..
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We were scheduled for FET this afternoon, but when we called to check on our embies, we found out the didn’t survive. We didn’t even get a chance it seems. We are kinda numb right now. I used to post on herre alot, but we took a break from Dr.’s and all for a while….and I kinda lurked off and on…..and had just began posting again the last week or so when we began treatment for our FET. I just wanted to share a poem my husband wrote this morning after we got our sad news of our loss, and it was so touching to me, I wanted to share it with you all as I know you all can appreciate the heartache felt to write these feelings, we hope it touches you too…. PEOPLE TAKE FOR GRANTED We may never hear the baby cry when it comes out of the womb, nor hold it or feed it in the hospital room. We may never take it for it’s first car ride, or watch over it with parently pride. We may never hear it cry in the middle of the night, and get up and feed it and hold it with all our might. We may never get to hear it coo or clean it’s spit-up, or watch it struggle as it tries to sit up. We may never see it’s first step, or hear it’s first word, or see it open presents on the day of the birth of our Lord. We may never see it grow from an infant to a child, or watch them on a day we think they are too wild. We may never see them go to school and study, or see them play with thier school pal or buddy. We may never see them graduate from school, nor hoop and holler and act like a fool. We may never get to walk our daughter down the aisle, or watch our son stand before all and say "I do". But through all this, what will hurt more than any, we may never hear "I love you MOMMIE & DADDY!" James Baal 8-9-99
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I am sorry about your embies not thawing but I have to comment about the lovely poem your husband wrote. I loved it Thanks for sharing that. Love and Prayers- Bobbi Angel 12/98 ^i^ Many Failed Clomid cycles 8/99 Clomid & Premarin It is a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best you very often get it. Some succeed because they are destined to, but most because they are determined
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Very touching. Your DH is a very sensitive person. I’m sorry about the loss of your embies. We are scheduled for FET in Oct. and that is one of my biggest fears. How many embies did you have (and were they "blasts?) Good luck in the future. Rea 6 ^i^’s
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I’m so sorry to hear what happened. Your dh’s poem is lovely–and heartbreaking! Best wishes to you both. Stephanie PCOS, anovulatory moving on to Gonal-F/hCG/IUI/Crinone (treatment on hold)
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I can’t imagine what you’re going through right now. I wish ALL the best for you and your Dh. The poem was GREAT!! But now I can’t stop crying! I’ll keep you in my prayers. Laura
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I am so sorry for your loss… The disappointment must be incredible. Your husband expresses that in an amazing way. I got chills and tears welling up. — Gwen TTC 2 years Male Factor Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.
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The poem is wonderful and ah so true, we all feel like that many times, hopeless and ready to give up, BUT please don’t give up and try to stay positive and hopeful still…. I am soo sorry about your loss and wish you strength and courage to go thru it. Lily Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.
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what a wonderful man you have…. I hope next time will be better for you. I, too, am a bit numb, so I understand how youre feeling right now. But I am gearing up for the next try, that is all we can do. I have learned to ‘Let Go and Move Forward’…. Best wishes and better days being sent your way, ~ Debbie ~ ( o /) ( o /) ( o /) ( o /) ( o /) ( o /) /_ /_ /_ /_ /_ /_ 1986 1989 1990 1994 1998 1999 " Six too many angels waiting for me in heaven…."
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I am so sorry to hear about your loss I am sending you prayers and thoughts of a positive outcome in the near future. Time helps I know it seems it is taking all of us so long to obtain what we so very much want and it will happen I am sure of it be kind and patient to yourself. Kristi
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I’m sorry for what you are going through. My last FET in June turned out the same. I, too, felt numb. It’s hard to mourn for a baby that only exists in your head. But, each time a cycle ends – regardless of how, it feels like a bit of a m/c. It’s hard, but you aren’t alone…sadly. Try to pamper yourself as you face this sadness. Sincerely, Missy in Indiana – Hopeful for next IVF try in Aug TTC = 3+ Clomid = 5 cycles FSH (1 with IUI/AI) = 2 cycles IVF/ICSI/AH = Nov ‘98 M/C and D&C = Jan ‘99 at 13 wks DH diag w/ "BT #13 and #14" FET/PGT = June ‘99; blasts didn’t make it after thaw
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So very sorry, to hear such sad news. I am hoping and praying that your next try will be the ONE. Your DH’s poem is very touching. I am glad to know you have such a sensitive and caring husband to support you through the heartache of IF! Bless you both! Michelle ttc 2+yrs 4th clomid cycle cd 4
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I am so very sorry about this devastating news. What pain you must be feeling right now. James’ poem is beautiful…I wish you both strength in the days ahead. Ellen 3 + yrs. secondary IF 4 failed IUI’s 2nd m/c 5/99 IVF on hold until Jan/Feb
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