Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS)

Need a little hand patting :-(

Question:

One of the best pieces of advice that I have read here was to not worry about all the small stuff and to only worry about providing a loving and caring environment for your child.  In other words, don’t decide how long and all the ins and outs of how you are going to do something just always provide and with love.  You want to provide your son with a sibling and I just kind of think that he kind of knows this and has decided to make it easy for you.  It’s not that it is so easy for everyone but you but they all know what result you are looking for.  You are probably feeling bummed as you wanted everything to happen seamlessly and you wanted to be everything to everyone.  But from their actions and support they are showing you that you are doing fine at being everything to your family. Brenjo (EDD#1 3/12/00)

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Oh my gosh!  You should feel just wonderful, victorious, and superwoman-like for nursing as long as you did.  You are doing NOTHING wrong.  Look at your DS.  You did that and it’s wonderful.  Go make another one.  :) Rebecca Mommy to Noah, born February 3,1999 (5 weeks early) To respond take away "nospamno"

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Wow, I can really sympathize with you!  I am nursing my 17 mo. dd, and so far I haven’t had a full period…my last period was in August of ‘97 right before she was conceived.  I know that if we had a solid plan for when we’d have our next baby, I would probably be in your same shoes.  Unfortunately, our circumstances make the idea of planning a baby out of the question…so I guess "Nature" is giving me a hand.  All I can think of is "Boy, what would I do if now was the time we wanting to have our second baby?"  I would be oh-so-bummed…so I know right where you’re coming from!! Hugs to you… I, on the other hand, feel awful!  I feel – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -like I’ve let him down by not weaning on his schedule, even though I know it’s because I don’t want him & sibs to be too far apart.  DH is sympathetic, but at something of a loss as to why I’m so bummed.  I guess I am too, really, since Gabriel isn’t having a problem with it all.

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I wanted to have child led weaning; but when #2 was 3 mo old, she would have milk hosing out of her nose when she latched on, choking and spluttering. I reluctantly weaned #1 who was then 46 mo. I look at him now, nearly five and still feel sad about "letting him go". He has forgotten how to latch on now and is happy that "titties" are for his sister. My friend’s little boy is 51/2 and still nursed to sleep. He doesn’t (and won’t have sibs). I guess some of us want the experience to last forever and are sad when it ends. Janet.

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{…}  the only problem is my stupid menstrual cycle!  I was pretty happy with having it suppressed at first, and thought it would return as Gabriel nursed less frequently and ate more table food, but no dice.  I’m on day 80 of the 4th cycle I’ve had in the last two years (36, 83, 47 and 80-so-far)

There was something on daytime TV today that reminded me of this.  A caller rang in to the programme’s resident GP to say that she had been diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome and could he explain what that was. I have read a bit about this, but I didn’t realise that it can kick in after giving birth.   In short, it can lead to irregular periods (the caller had only had three in three years) and difficulty in conceiving.   I also didn’t realise that it can be treated successfully.  The usual course of action is the Pill!! although he said that there were other ways around it.   So I don’t know if it’s worth asking your doctor about it?  Four periods in two years does sound a bit strange.   Other than that, I’m really sorry to hear about your difficulties in conceiving and how bad you feel about weaning your son.  :-( Denise

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Thanks to everyone who replied, I appreciate it.  :-) Denise, I’m aware of PCOS, but like you did not realize it could develop after a pregnancy.  I don’t have any of the symptoms other than being overweight (but I’ve always been overweight <lol), but it would be worth mentioning to my doctor. Thanks again! __ Gabriel’s mom 10-28-97 http://home.earthlink.net/~zarah/malaguti/ Independent consultant, Usborne Books at Home Independent distributor, Dorling Kindersley Family Learning

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I have a friend that has five kids ages 3 weeks old,2,4,9, and 11 years. She hasn’t had her period for five years. It took my husband and I a year to have our second.My daughter was almost three when we found out I was finally pregnant.Its so great that you’ve already weaned yours. I made a mistake and waited until I was pregnant.And the pressure to stop nursing was really hard on me and my daughter.Not to mention when your pregnant your already over emotional. Your doing great planning for the future.        Mair

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It’s been a LONG time since I posted here, but couldn’t think of a better place to come for a bit of sympathy.  :-) I had every intention of following child-led weaning and practicing the family bed until Gabriel decided to leave; the only problem is my stupid menstrual cycle!  I was pretty happy with having it suppressed at first, and thought it would return as Gabriel nursed less frequently and ate more table food, but no dice.  I’m on day 80 of the 4th cycle I’ve had in the last two years (36, 83, 47 and 80-so-far) and things just aren’t cooperating in the new-baby-making department.  I had hoped to be pregnant by now; now I’m hoping for #2 to be born before Gabriel is 3. Soooo, he’s sleeping on his futon beside our bed, and "nursin’ is all gone."    :-(     He actually likes his futon, and loves to jump in bed with Dad in the morning for snuggles while I’m getting ready for school.   The weaning was tougher; I led up to it as I’ve seen suggested,  letting him know each night that on such & such day it would be all gone, snuggling to sleep instead of nursing from then on etc.  He was grumpy the first night or two, and when he was tired or bumped his head the next few days he asked for "nurse-een" but he’s gotten past it quite well.  I, on the other hand, feel awful!  I feel like I’ve let him down by not weaning on his schedule, even though I know it’s because I don’t want him & sibs to be too far apart.  DH is sympathetic, but at something of a loss as to why I’m so bummed.  I guess I am too, really, since Gabriel isn’t having a problem with it all. Thanks for listening to me vent! __ Gabriel’s mom 10-28-97 http://home.earthlink.net/~zarah/malaguti/ Independent consultant, Usborne Books at Home Independent distributor, Dorling Kindersley Family Learning

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